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사랑, 순종, 그리고 상실| Fatherhood, Feminism, and Faith: A Candid Conversation — The One with Dr. Ikechukwu Okoro | Episode 20 (2025)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 사랑, 순종, 그리고 상실| Fatherhood, Feminism, and Faith: A Candid Conversation — The One with Dr. Ikechukwu Okoro | Episode 20 (2025)

What happens when your “common-sense advocate” friend—often (lovingly) accused of being a chauvinist—joins the podcast to talk gender roles? You get a rich, rowdy, and unexpectedly tender Father’s Day conversation.

In this special episode, I sit down with Dr. Ikechukwu Okoro (Or Aikay as I call him): physician, artist, and one of the oldest friendships I’ve kept since our NYSC days in Ibadan. Together, we explore the complex layers of ambition, masculinity, submission, grief, and family legacy.

We dive into what happens when men marry ambitious women and later feel threatened by that ambition. Is ambition unbiblical? Can submission and purpose exist in the same household? We unpack these tensions with scripture, personal stories, and the Proverbs 31 woman as a backdrop. (Yes, there’s a twist at the end.)

Aikay challenges my views while sharing his own, particularly on why ambition should never come at the cost of family. He also opens up about the loss of his father and what it means to grieve without tears. His story is both a celebration of a legacy and a powerful reminder that there’s no one way to mourn.

This episode is a tribute to the fathers we’ve had, the ones we’ve lost, and the ones we hope to become. It’s about choosing honest dialogue over easy answers. Whether you're navigating marriage, grief, identity, or calling, this one’s for you.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 법 밖의 삶| The Legality of Surrogacy - The Grey Area We Didn’t Know | Episode 19 (2025)

Five beautiful episodes. Seven amazing guests and several deeply personal stories.

Sùúrùgate has reached its final chapter, and I can’t help but feel proud of the ground we’ve covered. We’ve peeled back the layers of infertility, parenthood, and the deeply intimate journey of surrogacy, giving voice to those often left out of the conversation. As we wrap this powerful series, we take a bold turn into a topic that’s rarely discussed: the legal realities of surrogacy in Nigeria.

In this must-listen episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Lawyer Gbenga Adebisi, who brings unmatched clarity to Nigeria’s current surrogacy landscape, one that remains largely undefined by law. Gbenga walks us through the murky legal framework (or better put, the lack of one) and offers critical insight into why treating surrogacy as just a contract is not only misguided but potentially dangerous. His words surprised me, and they just might shift your perspective, too.

We unpack the fundamental question: Is surrogacy even legal in Nigeria? The answer is not what most people think. Gbenga explains how the absence of federal legislation leaves all parties—intended parents, surrogates, and especially the children—exposed and unprotected. He also highlights the often-exploitative systems in place that leave surrogate mothers underserved, unsupported, and without recourse.

If you’ve ever considered surrogacy, know someone who has, or simply care about protecting the most vulnerable in society, this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with practical insight into how to navigate this complex terrain more responsibly, even in the absence of clear legal guidelines.

But more than that, I hope this episode ignites something deeper—a call to advocate for comprehensive legal reform in Nigeria. Surrogacy should not operate in the shadows. Every child deserves legal clarity. Every surrogate deserves dignity. Every family deserves protection.

So please, don’t just listen—understand. Share this episode widely. Let’s raise our voices and push for a future where surrogacy in Nigeria is guided not just by hope, but by justice.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 기다림과 기적| Another Suurugate Journey: Of Pain, Joy, and Everything In Between | Episode 18 (2025)

As we wrap up this month’s Sùúrùgate series, I thought it expedient to share a story that embodies resilience, vulnerability, and the power of community. It takes immense courage to share a journey that many are ashamed to even identify with. And when someone steps forward with that kind of bravery, it deserves to be honored. Our guest today, though she remains anonymous, chose to walk the courageous path of telling her truth to help others find theirs. In truth, she was one of the few people who held my hand through the immigration and surrogacy process. Her guidance, honesty, and unwavering generosity carried me in moments of fear and uncertainty, and I am forever indebted to her.

In this deeply honest episode, I sit down with her to explore the often-unspoken realities of infertility and surrogacy, particularly within African communities. She shares her 16-year journey, one marked by the emotional weight of endometriosis, multiple failed IVF cycles, and heartbreaking miscarriages. Together, we discuss the physical and emotional costs of these experiences and the difficult decisions that come with choosing alternative paths to parenthood.

She also opens up about navigating surrogacy as an immigrant, highlighting the legal and emotional complexities of commissioning a surrogate in Nigeria and the challenges of bringing her U.S. citizen child home via the Consular Report of Birth Abroad (CRBA) process. Her story sheds light on what it means to hope against hope and to take a leap of faith despite societal stigma and cultural silence.

Perhaps most moving is her call to action—not just for women walking this path, but also for their partners. She urges husbands, especially in African communities, to offer patience, empathy, and unwavering support, reminding us that infertility is never just a woman’s burden to carry. Her message is a testament to love in action and to the transformative power of solidarity in the face of uncertainty.

If you or someone you love is facing infertility or wants to understand the surrogacy experience more deeply, this conversation offers a powerful reminder: no one walks this path alone. Listen in for a compassionate dialogue that challenges stigma, honors each family’s unique story, and invites us all to widen our definition of what it means to become a parent.

Tune in now and join us as we break the silence, share the truth, and offer hope