Mo' Sibyl

기다림과 기적| Another Suurugate Journey: Of Pain, Joy, and Everything In Between | Episode 18 (2025)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 기다림과 기적| Another Suurugate Journey: Of Pain, Joy, and Everything In Between | Episode 18 (2025)

As we wrap up this month’s Sùúrùgate series, I thought it expedient to share a story that embodies resilience, vulnerability, and the power of community. It takes immense courage to share a journey that many are ashamed to even identify with. And when someone steps forward with that kind of bravery, it deserves to be honored. Our guest today, though she remains anonymous, chose to walk the courageous path of telling her truth to help others find theirs. In truth, she was one of the few people who held my hand through the immigration and surrogacy process. Her guidance, honesty, and unwavering generosity carried me in moments of fear and uncertainty, and I am forever indebted to her.

In this deeply honest episode, I sit down with her to explore the often-unspoken realities of infertility and surrogacy, particularly within African communities. She shares her 16-year journey, one marked by the emotional weight of endometriosis, multiple failed IVF cycles, and heartbreaking miscarriages. Together, we discuss the physical and emotional costs of these experiences and the difficult decisions that come with choosing alternative paths to parenthood.

She also opens up about navigating surrogacy as an immigrant, highlighting the legal and emotional complexities of commissioning a surrogate in Nigeria and the challenges of bringing her U.S. citizen child home via the Consular Report of Birth Abroad (CRBA) process. Her story sheds light on what it means to hope against hope and to take a leap of faith despite societal stigma and cultural silence.

Perhaps most moving is her call to action—not just for women walking this path, but also for their partners. She urges husbands, especially in African communities, to offer patience, empathy, and unwavering support, reminding us that infertility is never just a woman’s burden to carry. Her message is a testament to love in action and to the transformative power of solidarity in the face of uncertainty.

If you or someone you love is facing infertility or wants to understand the surrogacy experience more deeply, this conversation offers a powerful reminder: no one walks this path alone. Listen in for a compassionate dialogue that challenges stigma, honors each family’s unique story, and invites us all to widen our definition of what it means to become a parent.

Tune in now and join us as we break the silence, share the truth, and offer hope

서로를 품다| The MVPs of Suurugate Journeys: The One with a Surrogate | Episode 17 (2025)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 서로를 품다| The MVPs of Suurugate Journeys: The One with a Surrogate | Episode 17 (2025)

When most people think of pregnancy, they think baby names, nursery colors, and tiny clothes. For Ms. Idowu Grace Abosede, pregnancy was about giving someone else the chance to experience all of that.

In this gripping episode, we unpack her deeply personal journey through surrogacy—one she had to navigate the hard way, using her own body as the lesson. That journey became the catalyst for founding Boblu’nd Gray Surrogacy Agency, where she now advocates for safe, ethical, and compassionate surrogacy in Nigeria.

Ms. Idowu shares the emotional and physical toll of being a surrogate and exposes the wide gap in protections for surrogates in Nigeria. From financial mistreatment—being offered as little as ₦30,000/month for food (in this T-Pain economy?!)—to unnecessary, non-consensual C-sections, she names the exploitative practices of individuals and institutions alike.

Her message is clear: Surrogacy is not a transaction. It’s a relationship. One that requires empathy, informed consent, and long-term support.

Whether you're a prospective surrogate, an intended parent, or a healthcare provider, this episode will challenge you to rethink everything you thought you knew about surrogacy. Listen now and be part of the conversation that centers care, dignity, and justice.

생명의 다리| A Guide to Your Sùúrùgate Journey - The One with The Sùúrùgate Team | Episode 16 (2025)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 생명의 다리| A Guide to Your Sùúrùgate Journey - The One with The Sùúrùgate Team | Episode 16 (2025)

I have one goal this month: demystifying surrogacy. In this episode, I’m joined by some amazing people to help me achieve just that.

Together with Olubusola Jeremiah-Yusuf, Chidinma Ewo-Mebradu, and Taiwo (my husband), we bring the perspective of medical professionals and commissioning parents. We explored what it means to pursue surrogacy ethically, the emotional realities that intended parents must prepare for, and the importance of building a strong support system. Busolami and Chidinma offered professional insights and practical guidance on navigating the process responsibly.

The highlight of this episode is the light we shine on the need to treat surrogates with dignity and fairness. Including the role of education, legal protections, emotional support, and ethical practices in shaping a positive surrogacy experience.

Taiwo shared his perspective on the importance of honest communication between partners, and I opened up about my own emotional journey as a commissioning mom—what it felt like to prepare for a child I wasn’t carrying, how I managed anxiety and grief from previous losses, and the deep trust and faith required throughout the process.

This episode is both a personal reflection and a practical guide for anyone considering surrogacy. We covered everything from preparing for parenthood and supporting surrogates to handling logistics and family dynamics.

If you’re thinking about surrogacy or currently navigating the journey, you have to listen to this conversation.

Listen to the full episode now wherever you get your podcasts.

If you’d like to connect with Busolami or Chidinma for support or guidance, here’s how to reach them:

Busolami – [olubusolayusuf@gmail.com]

Chidinma – [victoriaewomebradu@gmail.com]

If you’re thinking about surrogacy or exploring family-building options, know this: you are not alone. There’s a whole community and support network out here for you. That’s what HOPES — Helping Our People Expand Safely— is all about. Begin here:https://forms.gle/o5pbimJr1NQ9oHAY6

You can connect with Busolami and Chidinma via their socials and emails, which will be linked in the show notes.

Till the next conversation, Mosiblings, see you then!

우리의 대리모 이야기| Our Sùúrùgate Journey - Welcoming our Joy | Episode 15 (2025)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 우리의 대리모 이야기| Our Sùúrùgate Journey - Welcoming our Joy | Episode 15 (2025)

Last year, I had my second child through surrogacy. It was a long, tedious, and rewarding journey that inspired this series: Sùúrùgate. This premiere episode of the Sùúrùgate series is a deeply personal monologue about my journey to motherhood. A journey that spanned nearly a decade and took me through infertility, loss, hope, adoption, and finally, surrogacy.

I open up about the early days of trying to conceive, the countless medical procedures, failed IVF cycles, and the heartbreak that followed each disappointment. I speak honestly about the emotional toll, the spiritual wrestling, and the cultural expectations that made the experience even more isolating.

After adopting our first child, Ariifeoluwa, surrogacy became another viable option to parenthood. My husband and I chose to explore that route in Nigeria. I walk you through how we selected a clinic, navigated contracts, and managed the long-distance process.

I also reflect on the silence and stigma that often surround infertility in African and faith-based communities. Through this monologue, I hope to break that silence, sharing not just the hard parts, but also the faith, patience (sùúrù), and unexpected beauty that carried me through.

This episode sets the tone for the rest of the Sùúrùgate series, where I’ll dive deeper into the practical and emotional aspects of building a family in unconventional ways, especially from an African and diasporan lens. So stay tuned for the whole month as we dive into Sùúrùgate.