브라보, 내 인생| The One with Mo! – Motherhood, Interrupted: Episode 45 (2018)
[CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD]
The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Mo! – 1-in-4; Motherhood, Interrupted:
Of all the things we experience as women, there are some stories that remain hidden. And even when you do get to hear these stories, they are often told from the standpoint of someone who has weathered a forgotten storm.
Here’s a story that defies all of that.
In this episode, I had a heartfelt conversation on a recent pregnancy loss with a fellow sister. Mine ended in an early-stage miscarriage in October and hers, a still-birth at 31 weeks, in November. Culture says we are not supposed to tell you this story. But here we are telling it, anyhow.
Please note that I’m not sharing this story because I expect people to care about how all of this affects me. But because it’s comforting knowing that I am not alone. Maybe some of you who listen to this episode will see your story here. If not, I hope you at least find insight into something that happens all of the time, but only few talk about. After all, this affects one in four women.
People don’t know what to say when you lose a baby. It goes against the natural order of things. In fact, there isn’t even a name for parents who lose children. But after listening to this episode, the hope is you might know what to say to these people and see the ways to better support them in their journey. You would also hear what has proven the most beneficial in helping us heal this wound.
Also, here’s an honorable mention to those with no miscarriage or stillbirth or infant loss story, who are struggling. I just want to tell that person that it's OK. You are not alone and don't feel guilty. I have experienced loss too, and it's ok to grieve that which your heart longs and aches for.
Finally, this episode is dedicated to the loving memory of Araire (baby depicted in the cover story) and the several other unnamed babies who were lost in the early stages of pregnancy:
Never to have seen but to have dreamed.
Never to have held, but to have felt.
Never to have known, but to have loved.
“Tell me the truth, so I can find my story in your words.” - Brene Brown.
“It takes a village to raise a child; it also takes a village to help when you have lost a child.” – Mo!
“I think it’s easy to give up because at least you can’t be disappointed if you don’t hope.” - Ayomide
“Life is really what happens when you are busy trying to wait for something to happen to you” – Mo!
Background: “Penelope’s Song” – Loreena McKennitt (2007)
Outro: “Let It Be” - The Beatles (Matt Hylom acoustic cover) (2014)