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미혼 남자의 삶| The One with Akinola Akinlawon – On Being Single: The Male Perspective: Episode 11 (2021)

We are dedicating this month to all our single listeners and kicking off this relationship series with the male’s perspective on singlehood. To do justice to this topic is Akinola Akinlawon.

Akin, popularly referred to as “A.K.,” is a technocrat, critical thinker, gaming enthusiast, strategist, and friend with a reputation for being an architect of individual and organizational positive change. He earned his bachelor’s degree with honors in computer science from Cameron University in Oklahoma and has served as a leader in various capacities while being awarded numerously for his visionary involvement, commitment, and academic excellence. He holds a Master’s degree in Management of Information Systems at the University of Houston and owns an independent I.T. consulting business called Digital Designs and Engineering. He spends his spare time as a teacher, pianist, and poet.

In this episode, Akin shared his reasons for being single and was vulnerable enough to give us exclusive information about his previous unsuccessful relationships and the lessons he learned. We also discussed his opinion on males feeling intimidated by independent women, reasons why men “ghost” women, and of course, we attempted to answer the age-old question, “where are all the good guys?”

Akin dropped some hot tips for single ladies who are searching and hoping to be found. Listen and thank him later.

건강한 경계| The One with Olabimpe – On Boundaries: Episode 13 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 건강한 경계| The One with Olabimpe – On Boundaries: Episode 13 (2020)

Let's talk boundaries! Especially the ones we need to have with friends, families, around sex, money, as well as with ourselves. Just as I had to learn how to navigate grief, setting boundaries has been an enormous learning curve for me. But indeed, there have been gains in the learning, and I have this book by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life to thank for getting me started. I have since been encouraged to stand up for myself and also rethink the seductive lure of "loving relationships" that often drain the life out of me and often leave me with the feeling of resentment. Here's the hard truth, to experience deep and authentic connection, you need honesty! And setting boundaries in one way to get started.

So to do justice to this topic, I brought back an old friend who also happens to be very wise – Olabimpe – back to the show. It's an episode infused with mirth and abundant examples of potential boundary issues including how to avoid being a pushover at work amid work politics, or a dormant Nancy in a relationship with a s/o, inlaw, friend, or family member. We also tackled a listener's question involving a dilemma about a house pest, sorry guest, who has overstayed their welcome and has refused to move out.