건강한 경계| The One with Olabimpe – On Boundaries: Episode 13 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 건강한 경계| The One with Olabimpe – On Boundaries: Episode 13 (2020)

Let's talk boundaries! Especially the ones we need to have with friends, families, around sex, money, as well as with ourselves. Just as I had to learn how to navigate grief, setting boundaries has been an enormous learning curve for me. But indeed, there have been gains in the learning, and I have this book by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life to thank for getting me started. I have since been encouraged to stand up for myself and also rethink the seductive lure of "loving relationships" that often drain the life out of me and often leave me with the feeling of resentment. Here's the hard truth, to experience deep and authentic connection, you need honesty! And setting boundaries in one way to get started.

So to do justice to this topic, I brought back an old friend who also happens to be very wise – Olabimpe – back to the show. It's an episode infused with mirth and abundant examples of potential boundary issues including how to avoid being a pushover at work amid work politics, or a dormant Nancy in a relationship with a s/o, inlaw, friend, or family member. We also tackled a listener's question involving a dilemma about a house pest, sorry guest, who has overstayed their welcome and has refused to move out.

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세계여행자| The One with Ramblin’ Randy – Radio Show Host, World Traveler, & Music Aficionado: Episode 12 (2020)

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세계여행자| The One with Ramblin’ Randy – Radio Show Host, World Traveler, & Music Aficionado: Episode 12 (2020)

Imagine being 15 and landing your first and dream job as a radio DJ, which then leads to a cascade of events that led to a primetime radio show that’s syndicated globally? Today, that radio show, Sunday Night Slow Jams, has grown from being aired in just three radio stations to about 200 stations in 14 countries, including Lagos, Nigeria =, and Kenya! This is Randy’s (R Dub) story, and he shares a lot of tips on turning one’s passion into a reliable source of income.

In this episode, we talk about his life’s passions and missions and all the numerous lessons he has learned along the way. Randy provided a lot of travel tips on traveling on a tight budget with a busy schedule. We also talked about his most recent trip to Lagos, Nigeria, and why we encourage more Americans to travel out more!

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결혼기념일| The One with Mo! & TDawg – The 9th Wedding Anniversary: Episode 11 (2020)

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결혼기념일| The One with Mo! & TDawg – The 9th Wedding Anniversary: Episode 11 (2020)

What does a nine-marriage look like? Many things that are hard to explain or even try to fit into a pod episode. But that didn't stop us from trying. In this episode, which began with a fight (yes, at the very beginning), you will hear TDawg and I respond to answers sent in by our top supporters/fans (thank you, Sanket, Tope, Linda, Adebola, Tutu, and Irene). The questions ranged from our couple goals, what we think of couple's therapy/counseling, how we set healthy boundaries (find out who's more prone to emotional cheating), and how we balance relationships with our in-laws, and so much more.

Above all, this deeply flawed couple owes everything to God, therapy, and godly third-parties. For without them, we would not have made it this far.

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내가 과부였을 때| The One with Dr. Tosin Odunsi – Life by Tosin: Episode 10 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 내가 과부였을 때| The One with Dr. Tosin Odunsi – Life by Tosin: Episode 10 (2020)

Wow! That’s the only word I can use to describe this guest’s story. Meet Dr. Tosin Odunsi – an OB/GYN who has had a non-traditional path to becoming a physician.

She took the MCAT (medical entrance exams) three times, took Step 1 USMLE (required to enter medical residency) three times (she failed one of them by two points), and took Step 3 four times before finally passing on her fourth attempt. Unfortunately, Tosin became a young widow during her intern year of OB/GYN residency in June 2015. This significant life experience has given her the courage to be transparent on her Instagram page (@lifebytosin) and serve as a life motivator. She is a coach to many and encourages people to live a full and intentional life now!

Know anyone who has ever struggled with taking or passing professional exams? Or perhaps, a widow/widower, especially those younger? Kindly share this episode with them, as Tosin did not hold anything back in talking about the long, unwinding grieving process as well as the importance of not letting exams define our identity. She also shared how she’s navigating her remarriage, rising above abandonment issues, and giving love a second chance. So WOW, Tosin! You are a ball of amazement.

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의도적인 지도자| The One with Adam Mendler – Entrepreneur, Public Speaker, CEO, and Podcaster: Episode 9 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 의도적인 지도자| The One with Adam Mendler – Entrepreneur, Public Speaker, CEO, and Podcaster: Episode 9 (2020)

Imagine having a platform where you invite leading CEOs, founders, athletes, and generals/admirals to distill their success stories into 30-minutes bite-size and provide a plethora of practical and actionable advice? Well, imagine no further as this week’s guest – Adam Mendler - has just the platform through his personal/professional development podcast – Thirty Minute Mentor.

Adam, who also created the Lessons in Leadership interview series in Arianna Huffington’s Thrive Global, has conducted over 300 one-on-one interviews with many of America’s top leaders, influencers, founders of household name companies and a slew of other elites. His guest list boasts of the CEO of Deloitte, Suzanne Somers, actor Rob Lowe, NBA legend, Rick Barry, and so many more.

Adam, who was born and raised in California and in addition to being a podcast host, is also an entrepreneur, public speaker, CEO, and Forbes contributor. In this episode, I asked Adam to give me nuggets of the successful traits and habits that all his guests share in common, tips on how podcasters can cold call their heroes for guest appearances on their show, and how he’s able to seemingly do it all.

And if you stick around to the very end, there’s a special treat for ya!

You can follow Adam on IG or Twitter as @adammendler and read more about him on www.adammendler.com.

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새로워진 마음| The One with Folahan Ojolowo – Suicide Survivor & Mental Health Advocate: Episode 8 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 새로워진 마음| The One with Folahan Ojolowo – Suicide Survivor & Mental Health Advocate: Episode 8 (2020)

What does depression look like? We don't always know the answer to this as it manifests in different ways. Mental health issues, such as depression, are globally underdiagnosed. And in Nigeria, limited access to mental health services coupled with attitudes and behaviors towards seeking help result in a mentally unhealthy population. Statistically, men are also less likely to seek help for medical issues, especially those related to mental health. But one man is working on changing this narrative. Having suffered from chronic depression for years coupled with surviving sexual abuse as a child, all which led to suicidal attempts, he now uses his voice to help others, especially the younger generation.

This is Folahanmi Ojolowo’s story. He is the founder of Lovemade Foundation, a mental health youth network geared at helping people find the root cause of their mental health illnesses and to help them heal from their emotional pains.

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희망을 잃지 않다| The One with Angel Moms (Part II) – An Inner View with Mo! and Jolasun: Episode 7 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 희망을 잃지 않다| The One with Angel Moms (Part II) – An Inner View with Mo! and Jolasun: Episode 7 (2020)

Last year, I made a promise to a sister who was going through (in)fertility challenges that I was going to keep in touch with her, in a bid to make her journey lighter. I am happy to say that I kept that promise. We have communicated since then weekly and even met up in Dallas last year. After doing this episode, we both have now decided to make this a yearly pod follow-up.

In this episode, we shared our current states of mind, reflected on the past year, and designed the future. Know anyone like us, who’s been “trying” for quite a while and needs a little pick-me-up? Why not share this episode with them.

Let’s keep hope alive and take joy in everything that already abounds within and around us.

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멀리서 온 여자| The One with Abena Boakyewa-Ansah – Beyond Race and Skin Color: Episode 6 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 멀리서 온 여자| The One with Abena Boakyewa-Ansah – Beyond Race and Skin Color: Episode 6 (2020)

Here’s introducing Abena Boakyewa-Ansah, a first-generation Black British woman, living in the American South since 2016. She was born in Scotland, raised in England by her Ghanaian father and Trinidadian mother. After studying the American Civil War as an undergraduate, she learned the untapped power of black narratives in American history, and how they can inform pursuits of racial justice, equality, and reconciliation, today. This led her to where she is now, Nashville, Tennessee, pursuing her Ph.D. in History. Besides being a self-confessed nerd, Abena is a woman of faith, enjoying theology and seeking to ask the hard questions of the world and life, in order to have a deeper understanding of God.

And in this episode, we explored her identity via her ancestral roots and the one borne in Christ. We also talked about surviving America, racial identity, mental issues in grad school, and dating in your 20s.

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여행 가자| The One with Ada the Explorer – Catching the Travel Bug: Episode 5 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 여행 가자| The One with Ada the Explorer – Catching the Travel Bug: Episode 5 (2020)

Meet Adaeze Vanessa Nnanna (aka Ada) – In-house counsel (lawyer) by day, tourist at night, and founder of Tourmate by Ada the Explorer. I met Ada earlier in January when I was visiting Nigeria. While recuperating post-surgery, I needed an outing to get me out of my funk. And Ada’s scavenger hunt around Lagos was just what I needed (don’t tell my doctor). As a Lagosian, I have to admit (with my tail tucked between my legs) that as a Lagosian, Ada’s tour around Lagos Island gave me a fresh set of eyes to admire places I’d frequented several times. It’s funny how Lagos becomes tender when you give her a wee bit of attention. Thanks to Ada.

In this episode, we talk tourism – its challenges and opportunities, her travel logs, why everyone needs to visit Nigeria soon, and a strong need for the Nigerian government to boost tourism as a major export. Ada has some travels coming up soon (subject to change due to COVID), follow her on IG @adatheexplorer.

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올리비에가되기| The One with Olivier Day – On Awakening the Awesome in Us: Episode 4 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 올리비에가되기| The One with Olivier Day – On Awakening the Awesome in Us: Episode 4 (2020)

Let’s take a trip to Haiti, everyone, with today’s guest – Olivier Day. Olivier is the host of Awakening The Awesome Podcast where he talks on personal insights, showing people that you don’t have to be a superstar to be a SUPERSTAR. He truly strives to awaken the awesomeness in all of us.

Haiti is known to have a rich cultural history, and its people are resilient people having been through a lot together from natural disasters to economic hardships and corrupt, inept governance, and yet still stand strong. They are known to be entrepreneurial, warm-hearted, fun-loving, positive, uncomplicated, welcoming, and also a HUGE sense of pride. Could that be the pride that made our guest face adversity and still come out strong? As a Nigerian, I could not help but draw the parallels between my country and Haiti.

Olivier and I also talked about his marriage; how he purged the toxicity that almost damaged his marriage and the need for men to be more open and vulnerable with their partners. I also asked about parenting tips – the ones he’s recycling from his father and things he’s doing differently.

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다시 돌아가자| The One with FEGGO Girls! - We Were Once Girls: Episode 3 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 다시 돌아가자| The One with FEGGO Girls - We Were Once Girls: Episode 3 (2020)

Here’s an episode about a flashback. To a time when we were girls, and our earthy possessions could be condensed into two Ghana-must-go boxes. To a time when colored checkered house wears and white shirts and pinafores were as unique as identifiers as social media handles. To a time when mobile phones were non-existent, and the only source of entertainment we had was found within and through ourselves. To a time when we made music with plates, pots, stainless steel pots, Vinod cutlery, banging school desks to produce beats. When we tucked in our blue-dyed white blouses, flew our white shorts, shortened our skirts, and oiled our eyebrow and lips with Vaseline. To a time when chewing gum, eating sardines, scaling walls were as Kosher as putting the “#” after the operative word.

Evoked enough nostalgia in you or not?

Here’s an episode about the six years we spent in boarding house – the defining moments, friendships made, myths and folklores, our impressions of each other, the labors we endured, and most importantly, how all these have shaped us into the fine women we are today. You will hear from two of my good friends – Kehinde Melbury (Tinubu (pink) house, formerly of SS3D, and now customs officer at the Nigerian Customs Service) and Dr. Olivia Fasola (Manuwa (blue) house, formerly of SS3E, and a family physician).

PS: This episode was shot in January during a sleepover at Dr. Fasola’s house when it was still legal to be in close proximity to people.

PPS: With a single click, you can now rate the podcast. Kindly leave a rating/comment:

Link: RateThisPodcast.com/mosibyl

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다시 시작하다| The One with Mo!- Of Women and Bikes: Episode 2 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: Of Women and Bikes: Episode 2 (2020)

Dear Mosiblings!

Woot, woot! She’s back!

Welcome to Season 3 – triple the sauce, spunk, guts, and glory!

In this episode, I did a recap of Season 2, highlighting the moments that helped us build community around hot issues like women’s health, immigration, mental health, marriage, divorce, faith, and so much more. You also get to hear a sneak peek of some of the hot episodes I will be sharing in this new season.

I also shared some practical tips on how to learn bike riding as a fearful, chubby (or otherwise) adult. Including how to choose the right bike, overcoming the fear of falling, balancing, pedaling, and links to helpful YouTube videos (see show notes).

Based on listener feedback, the song playlists for Seasons 1 and 2 are now available on Spotify!

Hope you enjoy this episode!

PS: With a single click, you can now rate the podcast. Kindly leave a rating/comment:

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소원과 희망| The One with Mo! – What The New Year Brings: Episode 1 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: What The New Year Brings

If I could make a list of the many ways I would have wanted to herald in the new year, undergoing a major surgery would never have been on that list. But it was precisely what happened this year. With the excitement of the new year also came the frightened resolve to put my life and body on the line, yet again, for a chance to have a somewhat pain-free life.

 

And while I cannot go into the specifics yet, in this episode, you will hear just how my surgical experience helped me with a perspective shift that could possibly last all through this year and beyond. Also, I did lots of shout-outs to my friends and family who saw me through this painful but illuminating period.

 

I hope this episode gives someone else too the courage to keep seeking answers to those health questions that seem unresolved. Here’s wishing you the best of health and may a lot of good things happen to you as well in this new year.

 

PS: With a single click, you can now rate the podcast. Kindly leave a rating/comments:

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집에 갈 때| The One with T-Dawg (Again) – On Going Back Home to Nigeria: Episode 43 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with T-Dawg (Again) – On Going Back Home to Nigeria

It’s been eight years since T-Dawg visited Nigeria. Before we boarded the plane, I did a sesh with him to gauge his expectations – which sadly were non-existent. But I did try to dig out some potential things to be excited about regarding going back home.

We also answered a personal question from one of our listeners about our braces.

 

Hint: If you are using your teeth, you are doing it all wrong. Well, you have to listen to find out what this is about.

Happy New Year, and may it be the best year yet!

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자유를 위해| The One with Stephanie Fuccio – Hysterectomy Saved My Life?: Episode 42 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Stephanie Fuccio– Hysterectomy Saved My Life?

Hello Mosiblings! Merry Christmas!!!

Here’s reintroducing Stephanie Fuccio! Steph, as I call her, is an amazing ball of energy! She’s one of my podmentors who has blazed the trails for people like me. Steph was born in New York City and has intentionally taught English in a few countries in places in Asia like Taiwan, Vietnam, Malaysia, Japan, and China. She currently lives in Shanghai. She is also the host of the Geopats Podcast.

Today, I am sharing Steph’s story of her hysterectomy. Though we both agree that this is a procedure that’s too overprescribed in the US, it did save her life and relieve her of excruciating and heavy periods. Listen to hear all about this and more, especially on why we need to create more spaces for women to be able to talk about their period and vaginal health.

By sharing this episode, we both hope to have a world where women are more comfortable talking to each other about these issues. To form allies and microcommunities and hopefully strike up a conversation with the woman next to us in the waiting room or checkout line.

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극복 자| The One with Kelly Mendenhall – From Mess to Message; On Trauma Survival and Recovery: Episode 41 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Kelly “Nerdzilla” Mendenhall – From Mess to Message; On Trauma Survival and Recovery

How do you mourn the loss of your functionality, especially when you feel betrayed by your body? In this episode, Kelly “Nerdzilla” Mendenhall talked about coping with chronic pain and invisible illnesses and the process of grieving what used to be.

We also talked about medical gaslighting and the need for women, especially, to keep seeking spaces where they can be heard and understood. In the meantime, don’t forget to utilize your pharmacist as the no. 1 resource for drug safety.

Kelly Mendenhall lives in Middle Tennessee and, in 2017, became medically disabled and unable to work outside the home. Her mission is to show the world that a medical diagnosis does not have to mark the end of one’s story. She describes herself as a spoonie and is ½ of the @Nonmomhappyhour podcast

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이민 연대기| The One with Five Immigration Stories - On Mental Anguish and Familial Separation: Episode 40 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Five Immigration Stories - On Mental Anguish and Familial Separation

Life in the United States ain’t easy; contrary to what many people think. In this episode, I share five unique immigration stories of people who moved to the US on different tracks. The common thread here is how they all overcame a lot of odds to be where they are today. The hope is to encourage those who are currently in these situations to never give up, especially international students who feel trapped in the US, particularly at this time of the year.

For those in the position to do this, reach out to an international student and if possible, invite them over for Christmas for dinner or something. Or even engage them in conversations and you will be amazed at how much these acts of kindness will go a long way.

PS: Thanks to Ada U, Olabimpe, Linda J, T-Dawg, and Morin for sharing their inspiring stories.

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힐링 스토리| The One with Morin Omopariola - On Divorce Stories and X-Files: Episode 39 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Morin Omopariola - On Divorce Stories and X-Files

You asked; I listened. By popular demand, the audio version of my Facebook Live show with Morin Omopariola is now available on my website – www.mosbiyl.com as well as Spotify, iTunes, Stitcher, Anchor, and wherever you get your pod on.

So why am I releasing an episode on a Tuesday? Well because the lessons from this episode deserve such attention. Using an introspective and exploratory approach, Morin and I talked a lot about her divorce, missteps she took before and during her first marriage, the lies and traps she believed and fell for, and the red flags that were ignored that eventually led to her being jailed. Since our talk on Saturday, Morin’s commitment towards helping women especially those who are undergoing abuse in their relationship is renewed now more than ever.

Finally, remember that abuse, in any form, even the emotional kind is never OK. You are not as alone as you think and your salvation is just around the corner. Reach out today if you or someone you know is in a similar situation.

Morin has generously provided her email address if you need to talk to her directly - morinogunlade@yahoo.com

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정신과 의사| The One with Dr. Manuel Mota-Castillo- On Attention-Deficit, Hyperactivity Disorder: Episode 38 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Dr. Manuel Mota-Castillo- On Attention-Deficit, Hyperactivity Disorder 

Dear, Mosiblings!

I was honored to have had Dr. Manuel Mota-Castillo – a child and adolescent psychiatrist – on the show. Dr. Mota is Dominican Republic descent and for the past 28 years has served people of all ages in Florida, NM and Arizona and currently practices in Florida.

In this episode, we talk all things ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder); its definition, reasons for hyperactivity in children, and how it should be rightfully diagnosed and conservatively managed. Drawing from his clinical experience and using his latest book as a guide, Dr. Mota helps clarifies the differences between ADHD, bipolar disorder, conduct disorder, and oppositional-defiant disorder. Dr. Mota also provided answers to the audience questions on the roles of diet, vaccines, CBD oil on ADHD; resources for parents; reasons for over-diagnosis and overuse of stimulants; causes of ADHD; and implication for children in third-world countries with ADHD.

Finally, I hope this episode serves as a reminder for parents and caregivers to seek second and third opinions regarding these diagnoses before pumping your kids/wards with the wrong medications. In the meantime, go grab a copy of his latest book on ADHD; it’s a worthy read!

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투병 중인 암| The One with Dr. Ernie Kaninjing – On Black Men and Prostate Cancer: Episode 37 (2019)

투병 중인 암| The One with Dr. Ernie Kaninjing – On Black Men and Prostate Cancer

 

Dear, Mosiblings!

In this episode, you will see me get my nerdy on, like for real. I began conducting cancer research since 2012 and my focus was on Black men. This interest was borne from a personal loss of my father-figure who lost his battle to prostate cancer in 2006. My research focuses on the socio-behavioral aspects of cancer and measuring outcomes related to the cancer continuum from prevention to survivorship.

While cancer is very difficult to understand, there are several proactive tips we can take to reduce our likelihood of getting it and also with early detection, improving our chances of not dying from it. In this episode, I sat down with Dr. Ernest Kaninjing – another cancer scientist who hails from Cameroon – to talk about why Black men are at the most risk of prostate cancer than men of other ethnicities and what we can all do to begin to close that disparity gap.

Together, we unpacked our collective experience, spanning several publications and collaborations with other scientists all over Africa, Caribbean, and the US, to explore stigma, myths, risk factors, awareness, prevention, detection, survivorship, advocacy, and so much more related to cancer. In this period of thanksgiving, in addition to bickering about politics over the dinner table, I hope we can use this opportunity to have meaningful discussions with our loved ones about their health. I hope this episode serves as a reminder to those reading this to get their health check done. Wives, girlfriends, baby-mamas, nieces, and sisters, let’s get to work on improving the health of the men in our lives.

If you liked this episode, please let me know and don’t forget to share.

Summary Notes:

Get a yearly checkup done; know your numbers!

Know your family history (if you can).

Exercise regularly and consume more food with beneficial nutrients.

 

We also made a video about this episode; you can watch the 1-hr long feature on YouTube: http://bit.ly/prostatecancerYT2019

Be well and Happy Thanksgiving,

Mo!

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