Posts tagged Divorce
떠난다는 것의 실존적 위협| On Quiet Quitting a Marriage — The One With Sade Curry: Episode 5 (2026)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 떠난다는 것의 실존적 위협| On Quiet Quitting a Marriage — The One With Sade Curry: Episode 5 (2026)

Sade Curry did marriage "right" by every metric she was handed: virgin, saved, husband who checked every box, right intellect, right ambition. Twenty years later, she was still there and barely present, over-functioning and compartmentalizing to keep the front up.

Sade is a life and relationship coach, creator of the DIAL method, and host of the Extraordinary Life and Dating Divorce podcast.

In this conversation, she traces the gap between the two facts above. The religious conditioning that sent her looking for a husband before she'd built any real discernment of her own, and how scripture gets cherry-picked and applied to marriage in ways the fuller text never intended, including the verses about divorce nobody preaches. What "quiet quitting" a marriage actually looks like from the inside, and the exact moment she knew staying quiet wasn't protecting her kids anymore. Why she believes 80% of relationships are unhealthy behind beautifully curated fronts. And the boundaries she didn't set until year fifteen, when year one would have changed everything.

We didn't agree on everything. I pushed back on whether an unhappy wife looking outside her marriage is a red flag or a woman finally choosing herself, and we sat in that disagreement rather than resolving it. We also talk about faith, honestly. Sade's version isn't the one she was handed; it's built on the belief that women deserve real autonomy in how they hold their own faith, knowing God for yourself instead of borrowing someone else's version of Him.

This was a challenging one for me. I don't think we landed in the same place on everything, but it got me thinking, and I hope it does the same for you. I'll be on the other side with my own reflections.

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여자의 일생| The One with Ada - The Life of a Woman: Episode 12 (2018)

Here’s introducing my friend, Ada – one of the most beautiful souls I have ever met, who served in the US military. We explored her story from growing up in Nigeria, moving to the US, being drafted into the army, getting married, surviving an eventful divorce, raising multicultural kids, and life as a single mom.

We explored divorce in a cultural context (stigma, shame, losing friends, etc.) and what we can do to support divorcees around us (and it is not by choosing sides or totally avoiding them like a plague). We also talked about PTSD, mental health, and ways to self-care - post-divorce.

Outro-ish Song: *Don’t Let Us Get Sick* by Pat Guadagno; the original song was by Warren Zevon

Fun fact about Ada: She backpacked across Europe.


PS: To all the veterans like Ada, thank you for your service.


TL; DL:

How to Thrive after a Divorce:

  • Choose your battles

  • Stay alive

  • Do not rush into any kind of relationship (except with Ben and Jerry’s Ice-cream and chocolates, of course :-D)

  • Take your time to open up

  • Be vulnerable but not enough to allow reopening of old, healed wounds

  • Don’t waste yesterday’s tears on today

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