Mo' Sibyl

떠난다는 것의 실존적 위협| On Quiet Quitting a Marriage — The One With Sade Curry: Episode 5 (2026)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 떠난다는 것의 실존적 위협| On Quiet Quitting a Marriage — The One With Sade Curry: Episode 5 (2026)

Sade Curry did marriage "right" by every metric she was handed: virgin, saved, husband who checked every box, right intellect, right ambition. Twenty years later, she was still there and barely present, over-functioning and compartmentalizing to keep the front up.

Sade is a life and relationship coach, creator of the DIAL method, and host of the Extraordinary Life and Dating Divorce podcast.

In this conversation, she traces the gap between the two facts above. The religious conditioning that sent her looking for a husband before she'd built any real discernment of her own, and how scripture gets cherry-picked and applied to marriage in ways the fuller text never intended, including the verses about divorce nobody preaches. What "quiet quitting" a marriage actually looks like from the inside, and the exact moment she knew staying quiet wasn't protecting her kids anymore. Why she believes 80% of relationships are unhealthy behind beautifully curated fronts. And the boundaries she didn't set until year fifteen, when year one would have changed everything.

We didn't agree on everything. I pushed back on whether an unhappy wife looking outside her marriage is a red flag or a woman finally choosing herself, and we sat in that disagreement rather than resolving it. We also talk about faith, honestly. Sade's version isn't the one she was handed; it's built on the belief that women deserve real autonomy in how they hold their own faith, knowing God for yourself instead of borrowing someone else's version of Him.

This was a challenging one for me. I don't think we landed in the same place on everything, but it got me thinking, and I hope it does the same for you. I'll be on the other side with my own reflections.

계속 선택하는 사랑 |Almost Forty Years, Three Countries, and What It Takes to Stay — The One with the Ibikunles: Episode 4 (2026)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 계속 선택하는 사랑 |Almost Forty Years, Three Countries, and What It Takes to Stay — The One with the Ibikunles: Episode 4 (2026)

Love is patient, love is kind. Love hopes all things, and love endures all things (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

We all know this scripture. But the word I keep circling back to is endures. We love to dwell on the soft, beautiful things love brings, and we quietly skip past the harder truth tucked inside that verse. To endure something means there is resistance. It means something is pushing against you, and love is what holds on while it tries to pull you apart.

In this episode, I sit down with a couple who have endured, with love, for almost forty years, across three countries, and they are still choosing each other.

Dr. Tayo Ibikunle and Dr. (Mrs.) Tokunbo Ibikunle met more than once before they ever said yes (God, it seems, enjoys arranging these things), though she'll tell you plainly he wasn't her type at first. “Surely not you,” she told him. What followed was Nigeria, England, America, a letter written to her father, and a marriage that shaped how their own sons are being prepared for theirs.

We get honest about the things that quietly pull marriages apart. The years it can take to learn to say sorry and mean it. What it means for home to feel like a castle instead of a battleground, and what happens to a man when respect is withheld until he shuts down. What it means to trust your husband's place instead of quietly outsourcing it, and we ask the harder question about female friendships: at what point does leaning on your community of women friends start filling a role that should be his? The endless, urgent pull of black tax, and the “tyranny of the urgent” that taught them to protect what was theirs first. What immigration actually reveals about a marriage. The fifteen-minute rule that rescued their worst arguments. And why, in her own words, “the older I get, the more I'm enjoying being married.”

If you are newly married, in the thick of it, or quietly wondering how anyone stays connected across decades, this one is for you. Press play.

침묵의 방 | The Room Nobody Talks About: On Sex, Shame and Christian Marriages — The One with Pastor Temi Areo | Episode 3 (2026)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 침묵의 방 | The Room Nobody Talks About: On Sex, Shame and Christian Marriages — The One with Pastor Temi Areo | Episode 3 (2026)

There is a room in most marriages that nobody talks about. Not the kitchen where the arguments happen. Not the living room where everything looks fine for visitors. The bedroom. The one that started full of something and somewhere along the line went quiet. No dramatic moment. Nobody planned it. It just happened.

This episode I walked into that room with Pastor Temi Areo, co-lead pastor of Citizens of Light Church in Lagos, prophet, teacher, founder of a mentoring school, and author of several books including her newest, Undressing Sex. We did not tiptoe. The church has tiptoed for long enough.

Here is what we get into:

The three trouble spots almost every marriage runs into, and why couples can rarely tell you which one is actually doing the damage. The fire principle: why desire dies when you leave it alone, and what putting wood on the fire actually looks like in a real marriage. Pastor Temi's concept of expensive sex, and why leaving your own house might be exactly what saves it. What every husband should know about when sex actually starts for a woman. Hint: it is not at night, and it is not in the bedroom.

The difference between sex as a binding agent and sex as a cop out. The line between softening a fight and skipping the conversation entirely. What 1 Corinthians 7 actually says about the marriage bed, the word defraud, and what it means to weaponize sex. Why God is not absent from your sex life, and the analogy that made it finally click.

The shame so many women inherited from their culture. Why a lot of women in this part of the world do not orgasm, and why that is a cultural wound, not a body problem. The moment Pastor Temi got free of it herself. And the chapter of her own book that shook even her.

Then a listener question from a young woman carrying vaginismus alone, with a response I hope reaches every woman who has ever been told her desire was dangerous.

For every quiet room, there is a way back.

Press play.

이혼 그 후| After the Divorce and the Burnout — The One With Temi Oseni | Episode 2 (2026)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 이혼 그 후| After the Divorce and the Burnout — The One With Temi Oseni | Episode 2 (2026)

This is exactly the energy I wanted to open Season 9 with. The rawness, the healing, the self-love. This episode is a tribute to every woman who has been through so 8and chose, eventually, to let go instead of push through.

Temi Oseni is 38, Nigerian, divorced, three-fibroid-surgery-deep, and currently living her best life in Southeast Asia on a self-funded gap year she planned entirely for herself. No permission asked. No apologies given.

But getting there was not a straight line.

Temi takes us back to the beginning, the first-class degree she earned as an act of redemption, the marriage to her best friend of 12 years that unraveled within months, and the years she spent holding herself together in public while quietly falling apart. She also opens up about something many of us didn't know was even an option: taking paid mental health leave in the US without losing your job. Her seven weeks in intensive CBT changed everything.

We talk about fibroids, the dismissive diagnoses, the surgeries, the Lupron, the iron infusions, and why Temi connects her physical healing directly to the mental work she refused to skip.

And then we talk about the gap year, the one she gave herself. As an adult. As a Nigerian woman. In Vietnam. Alone. And completely on her own terms.

This one is for the woman who has been strong for too long. The one with the unsent draft sitting in her Notes app. The one still waiting for permission to choose herself.

Temi didn't wait. Listen to find out what that looks like, then send it to someone who needs it.

아홉 번째 계절| Season Nine Is Here, And I'm Not Pretending Anymore | Episode 1 (2026)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 아홉 번째 계절| Season Nine Is Here, And I'm Not Pretending Anymore | Episode 1 (2026)

Season 9 is here. And Mo! is not arriving polished. This season opener is a monologue; no guest, no research framework, no retrospective lessons tied with a bow. Just Mo! sitting with you in real time, naming what has been true for a while, and telling you exactly what Season 9 is going to be.

Here is what is on the table:

The number NINE. Why this season hits different mathematically, culturally, spiritually, and personally. (Hint: Your girl’s turning 40)
A season eight recap that actually means something. The surrogate episode that nearly quadrupled download records, the prostate cancer series, and why ten downloads on one episode still kept her up at night, in a good way.
Dispatches from Seoul. Mo! is in South Korea on a Fulbright US Presidential STEM Scholar appointment, doing research on cancer survivorship at Seoul National University. But something quieter is happening, too: sitting with a traditional Korean medicine practitioner and reckoning with what Korea kept, and Nigeria lost.
The sleep conversation. She's not sleeping. Not a rough week, not jet lag. Something deeper. She's exploring EMDR therapy and asking hard questions about what it means when a high-functioning woman's body finally starts sending invoices.
A preview of season nine. Rest, ambition, identity, faith, and a new series on the quiet ways marriages unravel before anyone says the word divorce.

If you have been calling something fine that is not fine, this one is for you.