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혼자 살지 마세요|The One with Doc Ayomide - The Dark Night of the Soul: Episode 30 (2023)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 혼자 살지 마세요|The One with Doc Ayomide - The Dark Night of the Soul: Episode 30 (2023)

Disclaimer: We will discuss suicide-related topics in this episode. If you or someone you know is struggling with these issues, please seek professional help immediately. You're not alone, and support is available. This podcast provides information and support but is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Your well-being matters and help is accessible.

This week's episode features my SENIOR colleague, close friend, psychiatrist, and former co-host of The More Sibyl Podcast, Doc Ayomide. Our discussion delves into the sensitive and complex subject of "Dark Nights of the Soul," which is the primary focus of our episode.

We explore the concept of "Dark Nights of the Soul" from spiritual and non-spiritual perspectives. This term signifies a profound spiritual and psychological experience that individuals go through, often to draw them closer to God, but not exclusively so. We dive deep into the spiritual aspect of these dark moments while addressing their relationship to depression in a non-spiritual context.

Additionally, we examine the core existential assumptions, deeply held beliefs about life that cannot always be scientifically proven. For example, the belief in the equality of all humans is one such assumption. We also differentiate between active suicidality, which involves active planning for suicide, and passive suicidality, which encompasses the desire or thoughts of ending one's life without taking immediate action.

Towards the conclusion of our conversation, Doc Ayomide and I provide insights into how people can support their family or friends going through dark moments or nearing them. We discuss the delicate balance between waiting out these moments and the possibility of sinking into depression, the role of medications, and the tough decisions about what to let go of and what to hold on to. We stress the importance of hope and encourage those experiencing dark moments to remain hopeful. Doc Ayomide also highlights the significance of observance of seemingly happy individuals, as they might be concealing a history of pain or sadness.

In summary, our episode covers the multifaceted aspects of "Dark Nights of the Soul" and offers guidance on supporting and maintaining hope during challenging times.

디아스포란 아프리카인 아빠들| The One with African Dads - Discussions Among Diasporans Series: Episode 25 (2023)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 디아스포란 아프리카인 아빠들| The One with African Dads - Discussions Among Diasporans Series: Episode 25 (2023)

This week, we embarked on a profound journey into the realm of fatherhood, specifically exploring the life experiences of immigrant fathers hailing from traditional African backgrounds. This episode was part of a collaborative panel, cohosted by our podcast and esteemed podcasters: Kelechi Ibe-Lamberts (@blacktransnational_), Nancy Mulemwa Siisii (@concrete_pastures), Ms. Kemi Seriki (@pansa.pansaforum).

Our discussion traversed the entire spectrum of immigrant fatherhood and fatherhood in general. Guiding us through this enriching conversation is Ms. Kemi Seriki, emphasizing the importance of engaging in more frequent dialogues about fatherhood. Our distinguished panel features five remarkable fathers. We aimed to provide you, our cherished audience, an authentic firsthand glimpse into the multifaceted world of fatherhood.

Our panelists include the venerable Mr. Babatunde Fapohunda, an engineer, father of two grown adults, and grandfather. We are also joined by Mr. Stephen Batti, the host of the Sambaza Podcast, who migrated to the U.S. twenty-one years ago. Completing our dynamic ensemble are Mr. Kenny Popoola (a beloved patron of the podcast), Dr. Taiwo Adedipe (our Tdawg), and Mr. Sammy Disu.

As we delve into the heart of the show, Ms. Seriki gracefully poses thought-provoking queries to our panelists. She urges them to share cherished memories from their childhoods back home, offering us a glimpse into their formative years. This prompts us to imagine what those moments meant to them. Additionally, she encourages the panelists to open up about their perceptions of fatherhood, revisit cherished childhood memories, identify the most approachable figure in their households, and dissect systemic challenges African immigrants face— such as language barriers and untransferable job skills.

Bringing our live show close, I take the reins for a Q&A session. We dive into the intricate dynamics of role transformation after migration, delve into the vulnerability experienced by men and fathers at large, and explore the tapestry of family life and fatherhood in the diaspora. The concept of adoption in Africa also finds its place in our conversation, followed by a discussion about the importance of allowing our children to choose their career paths while offering them guidance. Dive in for an episode filled with wisdom, insight, and heartfelt sharing that sheds light on the unique journey of immigrant fathers navigating the currents of fatherhood across the world.